Feb 26th, 2018
DAY 57 OF YEAR 2018
There’s a lot of things to look forward to in 2018. It might as well be my favourite year. Now I’ve never had a favourite year until this year. I had always gone with the flow. Living life blindly with no sense of direction. But for 2018, I feel like taking charge. Maybe because I’ve grown older and a little wiser (just a tad) and I kinda know what I want in the next few months. For the first time, I have my year all planned out. Plan A, Plan B, Best Case Scenario, Worse Case Scenario. Those kind of things.
For 2018, it’s all about experiences. New experiences. And about living life to the fullest. My dad used to (still do actually) instill this mantra in me – “Study hard so you’ll get a good job, lead a comfortable life, otherwise what the heck are you going to eat?!”. I believed him in my younger days & was afraid that I’ll end up poor & begging on the streets just to feed myself. But after actually going through life & finding my niche through travels, I believe my dad to be wrong. Never once did my father ever tell me to follow my dreams. Never once did he ask me what I want to do. It was always him telling me what to do, which school to apply to, what course to take, which job is better etc.
When I was younger I always thought that his dreams were my dreams. And his dreams had always revolved around education & a stable career. I guess he feels that he could live vicariously through me seeing that he never had the opportunity (education & career-wise) that I have.
Back in 2016, I told my dad I wanted to take time-off to go backpacking around South East Asia for 2 months. And boy, was I met with a very disappointed face & disapproving voice. It was only 2 months off my life & it felt like I was somehow disowned. But he eventually gave in after I convinced him I wasn’t going to ask for money from him nor was I going to go back to living in his house. But still, he thought I was making the biggest mistake of my life & that I was jeopardising my career.
Flash forward to 2018, I still haven’t told him of my plan to go backpacking in Europe. This time I’m really going to quit my job & sell off everything I have just so I could travel. Maybe he might actually disown me this time.
I just want to put these out there:
To the dreamers & dream-chasers, have dreams even if they seem ridiculous to others. But remember, just by having dreams won’t lead you anywhere but coupled with some hard work, they will take you everywhere.
And to the parents and guardians, let your child chase their own dreams. Let them make mistakes because they will learn from them eventually. Your job as parents and guardians is to be there when everything around your child falls apart. Don’t ever tell them “I told you so”. Instead, welcome them with open arms and let them into your home until they find the strength to get back on their feet.